5 Ways to stop being so hard on yourself

Are you one of those people who is constantly worrying or getting caught up in your own thoughts and negative self talk? Do you get overwhelmed and feel a lot of pressure to perform? Yep, I’ve been there, too. Trust me, it doesn’t have to be that way. Here are a few things I’ve learned that have really helped me to let go, let loose, and just enjoy my life a little more.

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Meditate. Meditation was my biggest game changer when it came to being nicer to myself. Meditation increases your awareness of your thoughts, your feelings, your desires. It has been scientifically proven to improve your relationships, your physical health, your sleep, and so much more. There is no wrong way to meditate, and even small moments of meditation help. Start by paying attention to your breath as it moves in and out of your lungs for a few moments. Don’t judge yourself as thoughts come up. Or start with a guided meditation. I’ve created a guided meditation album and meditation guide that would benefit you if you are interested in starting meditation or adding to your practice.

Journal. This is another great way to get in touch with yourself, and will therefore have a better understanding of your wants and needs. Journaling can help us process experiences and feelings, it can improve gratitude, and it can help us find positivity in difficult situations. Not sure what to write about? Sign up below to get four of my favorite journaling prompts sent directly to your inbox.

Take it slowly. Take a deep breath. Let go and trust a little. What happens if you don’t finish everything on your list? What happens if the laundry doesn’t get done today or you can’t make it to that meeting? It’ll all be okay! Learn to take things a little more slowly. Maybe commit to less. Treat yourself a little more. Take a bath. Watch the sunrise or sunset. Create a little more space in your life to just be.

Have more fun. After you’ve created the space, allow more fun into your life! Dance, sing, play, go hiking, travel, do something silly. Remember how good it feels to have as much fun as possible. Life doesn’t have to be so serious. Go with the flow a little more and say YES to the fun things that come up without guilt!

Forgive yourself. Remember that you are human. You screw up. You get hard on yourself. You have feelings. Forgive yourself. Forgive your mistakes.

What are some ways that you are kinder to yourself? Comment below or send me a message! I’d love to know and share.


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